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|About||Rhonda helps people find their way after a death, divorce or 40+ other possible losses. Grief Recovery (or life after loss) is about feeling better.|
After a tumultuous start in life, I felt I had finally arrived. I was in a healthy marriage going on five years and our blended family was working. Not together, but combined, my husband and I had three beautiful and very active boys. We had found a rhythm in our home managing their activities while advancing our careers in Technology. We even managed to spend amazing times together as a couple. It felt like we were living the dream.
It all crashed in January of 2001 when my oldest son at sixteen was diagnosed with a rare inherited neurogenetic disorder and there was no cure. I was devastated, confused and terrified. It was inconceivable that I might outlive my first-born son. Life, as we knew it, was over.
The next fourteen months were a world-wind. When my son died April 1, 2003 my heart was crushed, life became surreal and the reality that he was gone left me in shock.
Some people say a chapter ends so another can start. I felt a door slam and was scared that another would fail to ever open again. I didn’t know what to do or how to go about doing it. I was told, I would adjust to this new normal.
Over the next few years, I read books, went to therapists, attended support groups but it wasn’t enough. Therapy helped me to shift how I thought about some things which was helpful. Support groups helped me feel less alone but also felt like watching a reliving of trauma over and over. My beliefs from a spiritual perspective were challenged but intact. But, at the end of the day, my son was gone and it continually affected me. This was just how it was. Over time, I did find a new normal but it never felt like enough and I battled the heart-felt pain.
Twelve years after my son died, it was the approach of the Grief Recovery Method® that finally made the big difference in my life. It’s because of the profound impact the Grief Recovery Method had on me that I became a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® in May of 2016.
Time heals all wounds is a myth, moving